Believe Out Loud!

My last two blogs have focused on men who love or care about women or men who are victimized.  My most recent post examined how men can be supportive (even when we don’t know what to do) when a friend or loved one shares their experiences of having been raped or abused (“What to do…

Don’t Just Do Something, Stand There

There is no measure for the pain, anger, fear, confusion of loving someone who has experienced rape or domestic violence. For most of us, loving someone who is raped or abused by their partner strikes an chord in us that screams for us to take immediate action.   The behavioral reaction to having a loved one…

Exploring Emotional Safety

In organizing a couple of recent events for men, the question of “safe space for men” came up.  The question and the conversations that followed allowed me an opportunity to further reflect and explore this issue and what it means, particularly for me as a man with white skin.   For the purposes of this blog,…

Being Disturbed…and Disturbing 

Being Disturbed…and Disturbing Rus Ervin Funk I am disturbed.  There is a lot that has been going on lately that I find deeply disturbing.  I am talking about the election and inauguration of Donald Trump as our new president, but also about so much more.  It seems to me that there is a lot to…

Why Reproductive Rights are My Issue

Why is this My Issue? A Man Stands for Reproductive and Sexual  Justice Rus Ervin Funk Jan 20, 2017 I am writing this to you from my home in Kentucky. Our state legislature, which became fully and solidly Republican in the November elections, as first major accomplishments, passed with strong majorities, 2 laws designed to…

Dads Matter

Dads Matter Rus Ervin Funk “Dad’s matter.”  There is nothing terribly profound about this statement.  Most people believe this.  Most of us have dads.  Good, bad or mixed, we all know  our dads mattered when we were younger and for most of us, our dads matter now.  The notion that “dads matter” is kind of…